Gossip

“Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.”Ephesians 4:29

Words are powerful! The Bible speaks often about the tongue. At West Main, we’ve studied the sins of the tongue, and one thing is clear: controlling our speech is an expectation from God. James reminds us:

“If anyone thinks himself to be religious, and yet does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this man’s religion is worthless.” James 1:26

One sin of the tongue is gossip. The Scriptures give repeated warnings: “He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy conceals a matter.” Proverbs 11:13

Gossip destroys trust, ruins reputations, and tears down relationships. Brothers and sisters in the first century were warned:

“But refuse to put younger widows on the list, for when they feel sensual desires in disregard of Christ, they want to get married, thus incurring condemnation, because they have set aside their previous pledge. At the same time they also learn to be idle, as they go around from house to house; and not merely idle, but also gossips and busybodies, talking about things not proper to mention…”1 Timothy 5:11–13

What Is Gossip?

Definitions help us see it clearly:

• “A statement in general circulation without confirmation or certainty of facts.” (Dictionary.com)

• “Rumor or talk of a personal, sensational, or intimate nature. A person who habitually spreads intimate or private rumors or facts.” (American Heritage Dictionary)

The Bible goes even deeper. In 1 Timothy 5:13, translations use words like “gossips,” “tattlers,” or “talking foolishly.” These women were over-interested in the affairs of others, spreading things “not proper to mention.”

In 1 Timothy 3:11, Paul warns against “malicious gossips” or slanderers. The Greek word is diabolos—often translated as “Devil.” Gossip reflects Satan’s work as the adversary and accuser. It involves hostile intent (cf. 2 Timothy 3:3; Titus 2:3). Gossip is ungodly and must be avoided.

How Do I Know If I’m Gossiping?

James urges us to be “quick to hear, slow to speak” (James 1:19). That alone would prevent much gossip. But we can also ask ourselves:

• Should I be sharing this? (Proverbs 11:13)

• What is my purpose for sharing this? (3 John 9–11)

If the purpose is not to build up or bring grace, then it doesn’t belong on our lips.

The Damage of Gossip

We know the dangers, but let’s be reminded:

• It shows a lack of spiritual maturity and hinders others.

• It breeds distrust and suspicion.

• It destroys friendships (Proverbs 17:9).

• It damages our influence (Colossians 4:5–6).

• It fails to follow the example of Jesus (Ephesians 4:29–5:2).

A Better Way

Instead of gossip, let’s speak words that build up, encourage, and give grace. Let us be hearers and doers of the Word. Let us choose trustworthiness over talebearing.

The devil thrives on gossip. God calls us to something better.

Let’s avoid gossip at all costs.